|Posted on April 4, 2016 at 1:00 PM||comments (1)|
For the past three weeks I've a meeting with my mentee at 5 a.m. in the morning. He had indicated he wanted to get up in the morning and run with me so that we can continue building and bonding in our relationship together. So for the past three weeks he would get up and I would meet them 5 a.m. in the morning. And for the past three weeks I’d just meet him in the morning say “Hello” and “Have a great day!” And send him home. We wouldn’t go for a run or even talk. Nothing, just meet and “Have a great day.” This went on for three weeks. Every morning he would still come and show up, day after day for the three weeks no running, just getting up meeting in the morning saying “Hello” and “Have a great day!”
However, just the other day as we did the same routine, he said to me, “I don't understand what's really happening here but I know that there's something in it for me. So I'm going to keep showing up.” And BOOM that was the moment. That's the moment that what I was exactly trying to teach. That is when I knew he got the lesson of a long distance runner and for life. That is when I spoke to him and shared with him that “Commitment isn't for the convenient.”
For three weeks he had been getting up at 5 a.m. every morning wondering if things will turn out as he want them to. Getting up at 5am is not comfortable and things not going as you plan is even more uncomfortable. But that’s how life can be sometimes. We may not see it at the moment and it may not come when we want it but just keep showing up. Showing up believing that there's something in it for you.
There was a reason for me getting him up early in the morning at 5am and not going for a run, he knew there had to be a reason. So whatever your 5am moment is that you’re showing up for, know that there’s a reason for it and there's something in it for you.
There’s something that you need to learn and benefit from. Because again commitment isn't for the convenient. Getting up at 5 a.m. and not going for a run day after day after day. That's inconvenient. But the commitment to understand that there is something in it for you keeps you showing up. And you can't give up until you get it. When my mentee said that he knew it was something in it for him, that is when I realized I knew he had it. He had the understanding of how to be dedicated and really make it through the long run. By showing up every morning at 5 a.m. and not going for run lets me know that no matter how far we would have ran he would have made it because he showed the commitment prior to the run. And that’s important thing for a long distance runner. To show the commitment prior to the run lets you know how far you’ll actually run. All the work you do before the work that makes the work easy.
We have to realize that showing up like that requires a special effort. It requires us to show up believing that there’s something in it for us, mixed with the understanding of knowing that this type of commitment isn’t for the convenient.
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|Posted on December 19, 2014 at 10:45 AM||comments (0)|
If you truly want to be determined and successful in life here’s a five letter word that you need to start treating like a four letter word and stop saying it, and that word is “maybe.” In my work as a life coach much too often I’ve heard people say ‘maybe’ they’ll do something, only to come and find out that they ‘never’ did. See ‘maybe’ is not a word of confidence, ‘maybe’ is a word of uncertianity. However, if you’re truly excited and confident about what you’re doing and you’re excited about changing your life for the better, excited about starting that business, writing that book, excited about improving your relationships then ‘maybe’ isn’t a word you should use. I know that there are times when we’ll have to consider all the options about a situation before we make a decision and we do have to properly plan for our success, so I'm not implying that we make spur of the moment decisions and over commit to anything. Not saying that at all. But what I am saying is that ‘maybe’ doesn't offer any solutions. ‘Maybe’ doesn't move us forward. ‘Maybe’ waits for change. ‘Maybe’ is reactive word. ‘Maybe’ lets doubt and fear come in. So again if you truly want to have that life changing success in your life that you desire, if you’re truly excited and know that you’ll achieve every goal that you set out for yourself then eliminate the word ‘maybe’ and watch it happen!
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|Posted on December 18, 2014 at 10:45 AM||comments (0)|
Just about every morning for the past six months I’ve been getting up at about 5am-ish to go for a one mile run. Now I know that for a lot of you 24 hour non-stop go-getters, and you early raisers getting up at 5am-ish is a late start and for all you marathon runners one mile isn’t even considered a warm-up. But the most exciting part about these one mile runs is that I get to take them with my eleven year old son Christopher-Michael. See what I get out of these one mile runs is nothing compared to what I give. I give him quality time, I give him an example of manhood and fatherhood. I give him words of wisdom and most of all I give him love. So yeah getting up that early just for a one mile run may not seem like much in terms of running, health and all that stuff much. However, in terms of developing my son into being a man of character and integrity and sharing quality time with him and showing him an example of manhood and fatherhood, that one mile run goes a long, long way!
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|Posted on December 16, 2014 at 12:00 AM||comments (0)|
Notice the Victories!
(Ode to the Atlanta Falcons)
At the current standings my favorite football team is only 5-9. Not a good record on the surface numerically. Yet oddly enough they still have a chance of winning their division if they win their last two games. Yes, that’s right, if they finish 7-9 they would end up division champions! Now of course that’s not a winning record percentage wise and most division winners have at least ten or more wins but if they get to 7-9, they’ll be champions (I sure hope that they do).
When I talk to people about it I hear a lot of them say, “They shouldn't be division champions with nine loses.” And they make all types of jokes about my team. And I get it, they make sense and some of the jokes are really funny. But that made me begin to think, if they do end up as division champions with nine loses does that take away their seven wins?
When we look at our life in light of everything that has happen to us that is sometimes what we do. Sometimes we look at the loses more than we look at the wins. However, what we need to realize is that even in spite of all the loses we have experienced we are more successful than we can ever think. Sometimes we don't notice this because we're too busy looking at some of the defeats we’ve suffered.
We need to stop doing that and turn that around and look at all the victories that we have gained. Once we began to look at all the victories that we have we can really then began to see the progress that we have made. And then once we see the progress that we've made we realize the greatness that is within us. We’ll see the champions that we are. We will realize all the obstacles that we had to overcome. We will realize all the strength that we've gained. We realize all the hardships that we had to endure yet we got through them.
So it’s not with all the failures that we should look at, but it’s all the victories that we do have that has sustained us and made us great, made us winners. So don't look at all the loses no matter how tough or how many they were. Realize and celebrate all the victories and then you’ll notice the progress that you’ve truly made.
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|Posted on October 31, 2014 at 12:45 AM||comments (0)|
One of the more popular shows that’s on television now is the series “The Walking Dead.” I watched a few shows and was caught in the matrix for a moment but then the show just became too morbid for me so I stopped watching it. However, by the ever growing popularity of the show I may be the only one who has. The show is growing and has a strong following. The following and popularity of the show is so strong that the other day while I was in one convenient store I saw “Walking Dead” action figures! What kid would want to play with zombie action figures? Seeing those grotesque action figures says a lot about our society and what manufacturers think about us as parents/adults. Who would even consider buying that stuff for their kids? It says a lot about the warped mentality that they’re trying to infuse into our children and or that they believe they already have (is it just me?).
But I’m not writing about that or even about the show in general. What really made me think about the “Walking Dead” is that as I look around today I realize that there are so many people who are “Walking Dead.” They’re zombies walking around and not living there life to the fullest. They have let too many of life’s circumstances inflect them with hopelessness and now they’re walking around “dead” with no life, no hope, no joy, no true goals or aspirations. I don’t want to be insensitive to anyone’s plight because for some the struggle is real and I am aware of that. But that’s not the case for all. Yes, I know that life can be rough for some people. Yes, things have been tough economically, emotionally and socially for the past few years and it may be a few more before things are corrected but that doesn't mean that we should ever give up on hope. That doesn't me that we should give up on our dreams and start walking around like were dead already. Live life! Realize that there’s still hope and that there’s still opportunity out there for you to achieve your goals and live your dreams. Live your life and realize that success will never come too late. Enjoy all that life has to offer you and what it has brought to you thus far and realize that there is still more to come.
Don’t be one of the ‘walking dead’ who have become infected with hopelessness. Don't be one of those zombies who have zoned out of reality and are just living day by day walking around aimlessly ravaging off of whatever is out there. Live your life! Realize that there are greater days ahead and that you can still make things happen. Don’t succumb to the cultural norm of numbness and indifference checking out of life and living for whatever happens next. Live life and realize that you can make a difference.
It’s my endeavor to encourage others to rekindle their passion for life. Re-energize them and connect them with others with that same like passion for life, to encourage them to know that regardless of what has happened that they can still enjoy life and that they can still reconnect to the joy of living life on purpose. So don't be one of the ‘walking dead’ especially since you still have life. You have life and not just in the sense of being alive. I mean you still have life because you still have purpose, you still have value and you still have significance. When you realize that you’ll realize that you’re not dead and that you do still have hope and you still have life. So go out and live it!
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